Going around the house for just 10-15 minutes every day picking up and straightening things can help you keep some general order. Make it a pleasant time of day. Put on some music you like or have your coffee/tea while you do it. Try to enjoy it, it’s possible.
Also, make it a habit to never leave things behind when you go from one area of your house to another. Is there anything that belongs in a different room? Pick it up and take it along the minute you see it, don’t put it off. After a while, it becomes second nature and you don’t even have to think about it. And it really helps to keep a general order. Easy.
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
– Arthur Ashe-
I really like this quote, it’s encouraging and loving.
Next time when you can’t shake the feeling that you have lost control (and seem to drown in mess) think of this quote. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Stop and relax. Think of yourself first, do something good for yourself – can be as simple as a good cup of tea or maybe some deep breathing at the open window.
And then start where you are and do what you can.
“Things pass, and the best thing we can do is to let them really go away.” -Paulo Coelho-
That goes for many things, life circumstances, sometimes even relationships. Think about why you are hanging on to “things” that seem to have no relevance in your life any more (or never had). Let them go, make room for “the new”, let change happen, live your life!
Start with the area that irritates you the most. One benefit of choosing this approach is the fact that having strong feelings is usually a great motivator. It can help you to overcome the initial inertia.
If you are not sure what area of your house bothers you the most, try the following: sit down, close your eyes and in your mind “walk” through every room. How does your body react to your mental tour around the house. Note any feelings, the good and the bad. Make sure to remember the part of the house that you had a particularly strong reaction to. Open your eyes and write it down. Isn’t it amazing how your body knows? You thought the mess didn’t bother you but your body felt it all along.
Now go to the identified room and look around. Make a list of clutter zones. Start with smaller areas (e.g. a drawer or a small cabinet) and gradually work your way up to the larger ones. That said, some people might do this and get so pumped up that they steamroll through the whole room in one session. That’s okay. Most people however need to start on a smaller scale and go from there. If that’s you, do NOT feel discouraged or bad about yourself. Don’t judge. Make progress in your own time and at your own speed. Find out when and how it is best for YOU to clear your clutter. Do you have a favorite time of the day? Also, consider how much time you have, your level of energy and your willingness to let go of things.
Most important – show intention! Turn off the phone, don’t answer the door for the time being, focus on the task and DO IT !