KEEP THE CHANNEL OPEN !!!
If as a child you were shamed for wanting your needs met, or repeatedly ignored or sabotaged, you might have developed the belief, “I do not deserve for my needs to be met.” Consequently you might live a life that proofs exactly that.
Reflect! Respect yourself and take charge. You are worthy. You deserve to have your needs met. It is your birth right. You are, that’s enough. You are enough!
We tend to romanticise our ideas and plans but dread the execution. The magic you are looking for is in the work you are avoiding. Focus more on execution, not dreaming. No fear, do it.
We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Read that again.
I guess Corona has caught up to all of us in one or the other way. Life becomes more and more restricted in order to prevent the virus from spreading. I, myself, have two families in my social circles that have been in direct contact with infected people and are quarantined now. Consequently, I put myself on “house arrest“ until we know more. I have no symptoms, but it’s the reasonable thing to do. It’s not all bad, gives me some extra time to read and write. And, thanks to this little invention called internet I can stay in touch and share my thoughts with you. So, I am sending best wishes to all of you out there. Take good care of yourself and your loved ones. This will blow over, just hang in there. Meanwhile, with the right precautions for safety 😷 we can still help each other where needed, and most of all, be nice to each other. Now, more than ever, we need to know that we are not alone.
Sending lots of good wishes and xoxo. 😘
“Knowing the path is not the same as walking the path.”
Morpheus (The Matrix)
I have been struggling with this concept my whole life. I tend to turn to other things, when I get to the point where I think, “okay, got it, I can imagine where it goes from here, don’t have to actually do it.” Unfortunately, I have acted on that thought many times throughout my life and did turn to something new at this point. Consequently I never really mastered anything. Well, I’m living proof and here to tell you that it makes for an entertaining life but not necessarily for a fulfilled one.
Knowing this now I make an effort to pay close attention to what is happening at that crucial moment when I am about to turn my attention elsewhere. I try to be mindful, observe my feelings and thoughts at this moment and as a result, resist the urge to turn away and do something new. It’s been a life long struggle for me – but I’m learning.
And I can say from experience by now, that indeed, walking the path is quite different from knowing it. It has its frustrating phases but the rewards are so much greater. So, stick to it. After every down, there will be a high. Without the bad we would never be able to appreciate the good. Life does not work without contrast. Be nice to yourself and keep showing up. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. It’ll all work out in the end.
Life is demanding – every day. Most of us have a job, a spouse, children, pets, a house, a garden, etc. to take care of. And while we do some things lovingly, others are a drag, and there never seems to be enough time. And as if this was not enough, some just bend over backward every day to do what’s expected of them and lose themselves in the process. I know what I am talking about. I’ve been there, done that, and experienced all of the above before I finally had the guts to face my fears and ask some tough questions. Consequently, I’ve made some changes over the past few years. I don’t want to get into details, but they were truly major changes. I realized something had to give, rather sooner than later. If I did not make certain changes, I would lose myself completely – even more than I already had.
Now, that sounds so easy now that I am writing this, but in reality it was a long and painful process – getting to the point where it’s just too painful to go on, making the decision, announcing it, and going through with it. I don’t know which part was more excruciating. Coming out at the other end though was all the reward.
Most people, when they learned of my decision, asked, “Why?” and my one-word answer was always “authenticity”. Authenticity is the single most important ingredient for a happy life. Of course, there are others: love and affection, passion, compassion… but all of these cannot be developed or enjoyed to the fullest without authenticity. Authenticity is about discovering and knowing who you are and living accordingly. Again, that sounds way easier than it is. There are many humans out there who go through life without ever even approaching the subject. They live, but at what cost.
“Know thyself” is an ancient Greek aphorism, which just goes to show that the topic is not new to mankind. Many philosophers and poets discussed it and wrote about it throughout the centuries. It’s also been a subject in psychology and psychotherapy for over a hundred years, and in more recent years, a topic of the so-called self-improvement-movement. For me, it’s an ongoing process, which I truly enjoy. It has also become part of my professional life over the past few years, and by now, I’m proud to say, I have a practice for psychotherapy. If you want to know more about that, please go to my website at www.juttabreitling.com. I also intend to write more about the subject on this blog. I hope you will join me once in a while and let me know your thoughts. I’m looking forward to it.
Going around the house for just 10-15 minutes every day picking up and straightening things can help you keep some general order. Make it a pleasant time of day. Put on some music you like or have your coffee/tea while you do it. Try to enjoy it, it’s possible.
Also, make it a habit to never leave things behind when you go from one area of your house to another. Is there anything that belongs in a different room? Pick it up and take it along the minute you see it, don’t put it off. After a while, it becomes second nature and you don’t even have to think about it. And it really helps to keep a general order. Easy.
“The hard must become habit. The habit must become easy. The easy must become beautiful.” – Doug Henning –
I really like this quote. The process he describes is so essential to creating anything beautiful in your life. It’s practice practice practice, then “it” becomes habit and beauty will follow inevitably.
For more on this subject I recommend reading this blog by Leo Babauta. Enjoy!